How often do you think about your childhood, and how much you have grown since middle school? High school? College? It’s amazing how much life’s challenges shape us into who we are.
I think back to the “little girl” me. The one who would run around the house, singing, and doing gymnastics, the “performer”. And she seems so care free. So sweet. So innocent. There are no wounds or scars yet. There is no hurt or pain.
Two years ago, when life through me for a loop, I received the most thoughtful email, I had ever received. The email had the following, there was more but this was the gist of it:
The 5 Intimacies in of Relationship. Personally, I think there should be 6 so I added it.
1. Physical (attraction)
2. Emotional (feeling)
3. Intellectual (thinking)
4. Spiritual (beliefs, morals, values)
5. Aesthetic (appreciation for beauty) sunsets, architecture tours, pretty heels and dresses, and yes the organ music #6 on the list you plan on skipping, You should go! By allowing more of this aesthetic in, you will be welcoming more magic and romance.
6. Sensual (one’s connection *to themselves and the sensual world around them* through their 5 senses. Taste, Smell, Touch, Sight, Sound.) Lets face it, some people’s energy just has the power to move us more then others.
Know Thy Self
Katie, if you’ve taken this already, I ask you take it again. Remember, how effective Food Inc. was? Well, this version has the power to illuminate oodles of valuable self discovery for you and all of your relationships. Share this with friends and loved ones. Again, take 5 mins and give it a go.
Step 1. It’s 4 question test. http://www.personalitytype.com/career_quiz?type=1 I realize it says “career” but see it through ok. It all illuminates in Step 2.
Step 2. Now for the FULL results. Enter your type here http://www.personalitypage.com/html/portraits.html Let the fun begin! Read about your type in FULL detail. Be sure to check out all the sections RELATIONSHIPS, PERSONAL GROWTH, CAREERS and COMPATIBILITY.
Love & Destiny. California, here she comes!
This is brilliant. I discovered this little gem when I was living in Southern Cali. My birthcard was so accurate it was eery. Again, share this with all of your family and friends. It’s fun, uplifting and you all will enjoy a laugh.
Step 1. http://www.7thunders.com/FreeReading/Readings.php Name not required. Enter birthdate then click BIRTHCARD and read what the universe has to say about Katie.
Check out this little fitness video. I’m not sure why I get a little lump in my throat everytime I watch it. There’s just a real sweetness here and it reminds me of what’s really important. Amazing how simplicity, the element of music and celebrating the spirit of it all has the power to resonate so much.
The Video http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5R8PSuc8ong&feature=related
It was sweet, and thoughtful. And I couldn’t have been more grateful. I have always felt that I have a great understanding of who I am, but in that moment, I felt lost, conflicted. I was hurt and angry, and yet relieved. This email was exactly what I needed. I had forwarded this email to my family, and immediately they took the personality test for me. They said you are an “ESFP” which just so happens to be “The Performer“. As I read about “The Performer”, I LOVED everything about this personality, well for the most part. And I realized how much of that person, that my family remembers, had been lost. I started to shy away from “performing” instead of embracing it, because I never wanted anyone to think I was narcissistic or egotistical, or that I wanted the world to be “all about me”.
Side note: I encourage you to take the personality test, and check out your birth card, and your karma cards. It’s fun! And I would LOVE to hear what you think, when you read about “you”.
I was out for a run with Jené the other day, and we were talking about performing. And I realized how much I LOVE to make other people laugh, and inspire others. I DO love to “perform”. I don’t mind being the center of attention, but I also LOVE to listen. Listen to other people’s stories, advice, etc. I love to learn from others, just as much as I love to share.
And then I got to the relationship part of “The Performer” and although a lot of it is true, a lot of it isn’t. There’s a section on the site about personal growth, which is why as we get older it’s more and more difficult to pigeon hole us, because we change. We evolve, we develop, we grow. And we have the opportunity to become more balanced.
Change is necessary, change happens, but I think the hardest part is accepting change, and letting ourselves grow.
I had changed. I am changed. And I’m thankful for that change.
I think relationships are one of the hardest pieces of the puzzle in life, because we aren’t just one puzzle piece trying to fit into someone else’s puzzle, but there’s another puzzle piece trying to fit into ours. Most relationships are all about timing. The truth is whether it’s a romantic relationship, a career relationship, a friendship, etc. Relationships, in my opinion, are what shape us. Life is all about relationships. To me this is comforting. I’m always learning something new about myself, or growing into the person I want to be because of my family, my friendships, and my romantic relationships. I love being around people, and watching them grow, and become the person they want to be. I love supporting other people’s goals, and helping in any way I can to help them achieve those goals.
I have never learned more about myself, than I had after that relationship ended two years ago.
* I mean there had been the time where I wrote love letters to my 4th grade boyfriend the summer going into 5th grade, and when school was back in session he decided to share them with the whole school. #embarrassing
* There was the time when my 8th grade boyfriend broke up with me to get back together with his ex. #bummer
* There was the time where I broke up with my high school boyfriend about two months into my freshman year at college, and I had never felt so bad about something. In fact, it was my first time breaking up with someone who I loved. #hard
* There were the summer camp romances, that turned into love letter writing pen pals. #sweet
* There were the spring break “boyfriends” who somehow turned into actual boyfriends, the crazy college drop out, the smokin’ hot argentinian. #adventure
The list could go on, but the truth is every single time, I have learned something about myself. I have thought to myself, why was this one so different? Why was it so hard to move on and accept change? I think it’s because I never truly had been betrayed by someone I loved before.
And as much as hardship is sometimes hard to accept, what I learned since moving out here, is everyone has a story. (I think again this is what I love about triathlon or sports/athletics in general, it is a metaphor for life – so cool!) Hearing other people’s stories, helped me cope, and move on. I knew I wasn’t the only one, but how often do people share their hardships? And for me personally, it’s very hard. I like to think of life as always bright and shiny. I like to focus on the positive and the good, and just move forward. But, I was stuck, and I’m thankful for everyone who shared their story with me. What I learned is it’s how we deal with those “stories” that shape us into who we are. The truth is that break up did more for me, than I could ever have imagined. And now, more than ever, I know what I’m looking for in a relationship. I had settled in the past, because I’m a sucker for love. And I am a hopeless romantic, who wants to believe if two people love each other, they can find a way to make it work. And then I started to realize that there are different kinds of love. There is puppy love, there is crazy passionate adventurous love, there is best friends love, there is complacent and comfortable love, the list goes on, and then there is the kind of love that makes a marriage a work. The kind of love where two people can have a family together, and share a life together. And well love isn’t the only thing that goes into a marriage, yet I think I always wanted to believe that.
We might think we know who we are, or we might feel lost, and feel like we are searching, but I think in reality, we are always growing. Embrace who you are in the moment, and with changes, allow yourself to grow, and you will become exactly who you are meant to be.